If you want to have better relationships, stop accepting low quality people into your life.

In ALL aspects of your life.

I've been thinking a lot about this a lot lately and, there has been a lot of discussion in the BWE blogosphere about low vs. higher value people and the affect they have on our lives. Click here and here for more.

What you accept or tolerate you ultimately get more of so, if you don't want BS stop accepting it. If you want to be with a man who is of high quality and treats you well, stop accepting those who don't. Seems easy enough, no?

Speaking for myself, I want to give everyone a fair shake and avoid writing people off for no good reason (i.e. they weren't wearing the right socks) and I'm also a firm believer in duty dating (i.e. going out on a date with someone you may be less than excited about for the sake of it- it's good practice). The difference is the person you duty date with shouldn't be someone who'd ultimately be wasting you time. Am I making sense?

I've found this to be true with friendships as well. If you want to build good friendships and networks (which you really do need for survival in life) stop accepting crumbs from less than committed "friends." Distance yourself from these people- if you're giving and not getting back, move on. Stop interacting with these people altogether- it will ultimately bring you closer to where you want to be.